My Hair Journey by Dan

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Dan's journey.






I've had an interest in hair since i was about 6 or 7 (i'm 37 now), i used to play hair brushing with girls at school, when i was around 10 i became more and more interested in my feminine side experimenting with my sisters hair products and make-up. My sister soon realised that i was going in her room because her hair products and make-up were being used, she also smelt my hair once and it still smelt of hair mousse.
My sister was training as a hairdresser and she used to train on my hair, starting with the usual short back and sides, spikey on top look, i decided to grow my hair so i grew my hair to my ears, my sister cut my hair into a sort of one length bowl cut, i loved it.
Because of pier preasure at senior school i had my hair cut short again to fit in with everyone else, but inside i felt i really wanted feminine hair, so i grew my hair to ear length again, at this point i'm 17 years old, i began to make appointments at hairdressers and make up reasons why i wanted to have a feminine hairstyles done, telling the stylist 'oh i'm going to a crossdressing party, boys as girls and girls as boys', my first experience of this i remember vividly, i walked into the hairdressers feeling very nervous and exited at the same time, the stylist called me over, sat me in the chair and said 'ok what are we doing?', i explained my situation to her, she said 'ok, how about a head full of pig tails?' i said 'ok cool go for it', i sat in the chair holding a box of hair bands while she put my hair up in pig tails all over my head, i walked out of the salon feeling so elated, i was hooked, i needed to have more hairdressing experiences. It became like an addiction, i used to pick out different hairdressing salons in the local phone book and made the same crossdressing party excuse as to why i wanted my hair to look feminine, one salon gave me a bee hive, another salon set my hair in rollers and put me under a hood hairdryer, i loved this experience so much i wanted my hair in rollers again, so i booked an appointment at a salon i hadn't gone to before and told the stylist on the phone the usual crossdressing party cenario, she said 'if you can, try and bring in a picture of a style that you want so we can copy it', so i looked around at home for a picture of a woman with beautiful curly hair and i found a picture on a bottle of my sisters colour mousse she had, i took it with me to the salon and showed the stylist the picture on the bottle of mousse, she said 'ok that's great we can do that' she then asked me a question i wasn't prepared for, she said 'shall we colour your hair with this mousse, it will make you look more feminine with this colour', so she did it, she coloured my hair a mahogany red colour then set my hair in rollers, i walked out of the salon with a red shampoo and set hair style, it was amazing, i was so happy, i wanted to keep that colour and style so bad, but i couldn't, i am a man after all, so as soon as i got home i got in the shower and washed the colour out :(.

The obsession for wanting feminine hairstyles grew to wanting my hair cut into a more feminine cut, i found a salon that would cater for my needs, the stylist that regularly cut my hair knew that i was a bit androgenous and wanted a more feminine look, i told her that i wanted to grow my hair into a bob, i began obsessing about bob hair cuts, buying loads of hair magazines trying to find the right cut for me. My hair was just below my jaw with only a few light layers at the ends when i decided to go for the chop, i had found the right picture of the cut i wanted it was a picture of Victoria Beckhams
famous graduated bob haircut, when i showed my stylist the picture she was quite shocked that i wanted that cut, she said 'ok i can cut your hair like that, that will look nice with your hair', well that was it, there was no turning back, i was going to get my first propper feminine hair cut, I had my hair washed and sat in the chair while she started sectioning my hair, she looked at me and said 'are you ready?' I looked at her and smiled nodding my head. She started cutting the back of my hair, I could see lots of length falling to the floor, I felt so nervously excited. When she was combing the sides ready to cut I told her that I wanted the angle to look very blunt, and I wanted it chin length, she raised her eyebrows, smiled and said 'ok, if you're sure', I had to explain that the picture of Victoria Beckham's bob I showed her was not exactly wat I wanted, I wanted more angled, inverted and blunt. After she cut my hair she started blowdrying, I asked her if she could blowdry it so it looked very big and round at the back and curled under, well she did exactly that, after she straightened my hair she finished off with straightening serum.
I looked in the mirror at my new feminine haircut and felt so elated with joy I couldn't thank her enough, she put the mirror at the back so I could see what she had done for the first time, it was exactly like I pictured my hair to look like in my head, my nape was so short compared to the rest of my hair, it was a great contrast. So, I was now sporting a chin length blunt, angled inverted bob, i walked out of the salon feeling so happy, i had never been so happy in my life, i looked after my hair, it was my pride and joy, i bought some GHD hair straighteners and some clip in hair extentions so i could emphasise on the angle of my bobbed hair, at one point i had a full blunt fringe cut and blonde and red streaks through my hair, the only problem i now faced was worrying what people thought of my graduated bob haircut, i had conflicting feelings loving my hair but at the same time feeling paranoid about going out. I soon became a recluse and hardly ever went out, yes i had a beautiful haircut (in my eyes) but it wasn't doing my confidence any good, i had to make a choice, so i decided to get my gorgeous hair cut to a short back and sides again, it was a horrible experience.


I've since realised that i can be as feminine as i want and still have short man's hair, i can wear wigs, wigs have got so much better and cheaper nowadays. I'm now married to my lovely wife Tara, she knows everything about me, she knows i'm transgendered and that i have a major hair fetish, mainly bob fetish (you can understand why), Tara lets me cut her hair into bob styles which is great, she looks so beautiful with an angled bob and a fringe, it really turns me on seeing her with a bob hairstyle and a full fringe, although she's not too keen on it she knows that I have a crazy bob hair fetish, I just hope she lets me always cut her hair into different bob hairstyles.

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